Codependency
“I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people’s lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.”
– Melody Beattie, author of Codependent No More
Have you noticed any of these patterns?
Making choices or decisions is difficult.
You are unable to ask to have your needs met. When people ask you what you need or want, you can’t find the answer.
Accepting attention from others presents itself either in ways you don’t want or that don’t meet your needs.
Agreement is your modus operandi, even when you don’t agree.
Leaving harmful friendships or relationships takes you longer than is healthy.
You crave feeling needed by others and feel hurt when people refuse your advice or help.
Sharing your emotions is not natural – it’s easier to keep emotions at a distance.
Your needs are always ‘on the shelf.’
At some point, you learned that you just aren’t enough and that your value is in caring for others.
Codependency is a pattern you developed that served a purpose. It was helpful for a time, but now it’s time to let that pattern go.
To experience life with healthy, connected relationships, you shouldn’t have to do all the work in a relationship, put other’s needs first all the time, or bring anything to the table other than yourself.
You are valuable just as you are. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you can have healthy, happy relationships with your loved ones.
It’s time to meet your needs.
Let’s talk about how you can move toward your values and learn how to meet your own needs.
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